Capability.

“I kinda feel a little unstoppable.”

This was a thought I had to myself as I copied the introduction to my POI (Program of Oral Interpretation) from my working document into the final document before sending it over to my Speech director, both the POI and the introduction feeling like such impossibilities that if I was still for long enough, the anxiety I felt toward it was all-consuming.

*Record Scratch*

You may be wondering how I got here:

The last post, if I recall correctly as I don’t typically go back and read over things I’ve written, I wrote of how absolutely terrible I felt after my second speech for class and how the words of one of my classmates made me cry real, actual tears. That was only half way through the semester. Since then, I have given my Informative Speech about Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, on which I made a 99, points only taken off because I said my points in reverse order, and my Persuasive Speech on the Children’s Bereavement Center of South Texas, on which I made a 101. (This was a class-voted competition to see whose non-profit would get the class donation. I was pretty competitive with it, but after the first day’s speeches it was very evident that I had a very good chance of losing to one of my classmates, Carlos. It came down to a coin toss, which he called and I won. If we hadn’t been allowed to vote or if he voted for himself, he would have won—a win he totally would have deserved. Hell, I almost voted for him, talking myself down last minute. [“Don’t be noble, Emilee!”] A wild, fun time.)

Since that last post, my speech teacher, Sarah, emailed me to ask if I was interested in joining the Speech Team. I met with her to see about what kind of a commitment this is, considering I’m currently working two jobs and not entirely sure what to expect as far as how much school work I’m going to have. College Forensics (not, like, CSI style, y’all) is different than the High School circuit I’m used to. Here, you don’t have to place at certain levels a certain amount of times to qualify for State or Nationals. As long as you are enrolled in enough classes and have the required amount of different events, you’re good to go. You also don’t have to go to every tournament. If I have to miss one, I don’t get eaten alive like I used to in High School. Back then, Theater basically owned your soul, but now it was much more forgiving. I told Sarah about my schedule and how things stood, and it all seemed doable with enough tweaking.

Also in that time, my High School speech teacher and coach, Charlotte Brown, died. It wasn’t entirely unexpected, but it definitely was shocking. The timing of it for me is absolutely mind blowing and makes the grieving process a bit more complex as I’m already finding myself in an emotional tailspin, joining a speech team again and sorting through the emotions that have come with that. It’s almost felt as though I’ve been given an additional do-over—first in school, and now in competitions—that I didn’t expect to be given. I wanted to tell Ms. Brown about it, but waited to message her as they she was moving to San Antonio. No sooner she got there, she was gone. I know she would have been thrilled for me. Especially learning under Sarah, who did her student teaching with Ms. Brown and is a force in her own right. I also learned she’s the mom of one of my former teammates from high school. I don’t know who is writing this season of my life, but they sure are having a great time of it.

I had intended on sticking to what was familiar—Poetry and Prose—but after my first meeting with the team I realized that POI sounded pretty cool and the next day in class, Sarah told me some ideas she had about what could be a good one for me. I went home and thought about it, looking through some of my old Instagram story posts for inspiration and landing on an idea. I brought it up to Sarah the following day, and she loved it.

Yay! Great! An idea!

The only problem is, I’ve never done a POI before. Further, I’m an anxious mess and I knew if I wasn’t careful, this would consume me and I would end up a copy/paste of 14-year-old Emilee, too terrified of failing to even try simply because I didn’t fully understand what I was doing. Sarah gave me examples of POI’s, as well as showed me where to find recordings of past Nationals winners. I had all the information I could ever need, and still I felt ill-equipped and unprepared.

I wasn’t, though, I just had to try.

Slowly, I started putting together things that made sense. I tried to not think about the end goal, but rather just the next step I could see and taking it. I didn’t force it if I wasn’t having a good brain day, but I still kept the reality of the fact I couldn’t wait too long to get this done at the forefront of my mind. Grace, and action. Last night I couldn’t sleep from the anxiety of not having fully figured it out yet, and somehow I found the presence of mind to tell myself, “You know what to do. You can’t do any of that right now. You will do it in the morning, and it’ll be fine. You’ll finish it and send it off to Sarah, and if it sucks she’ll tell you and then you’ll know and learn how to do better.” And that helped me fall asleep.

This morning, I did just that; I finished it, sent it off to Sarah, and waited for her thoughts. Wouldn’t you know? She loved it, the only changes she made being structurally to give it a more impactful flow and cutting out one sentence. Next up was coming up with my Introduction. I asked her if there was anything specific I needed to have in it, and she sent me over some examples. I felt just as nervous for this as I apparently don’t think I know what I’m doing unless someone is standing over me telling me I’m doing it right (is this my problem with math?) but I told myself if I could do the POI, I could do the intro, and who knows? Maybe I’d surprise myself. I started on the steps I knew I could do, started compiling parts of it, and then just wrote. I read it over, added an extra sentence, then put it with the piece. I sent it over to Sarah—and am currently still awaiting her opinion—and as soon as I sent it, the overwhelming sense of being capable washed over me.

Who have I been to assume I can’t do things?

Where the hell did that even come from?

I’m sure if I tried hard enough, I could pinpoint it, and I’m sure it’s from my super-fun childhood that’s job security for my therapist, but I don’t feel I need to. What’s important is that I realize I am capable, and being gentle with myself to guide her through these opportunities where I’m stepping into it all.

Hopefully she likes the intro, and if not, I’ll learn from it and try again. I still have a persuasive speech to write (and memorize…el oh el.) but I feel a little more secure in that since I’ve done one before and have some semblance of understanding with it.

Now that I’ve got it assembled, I hope I do this piece justice.

Stay tuned!